Common Characteristics of a Clutter Clearer
STRUGGLE WITH OUR EMOTIONS
Emotions can be ‘icky’. Most people find them uncomfortable. Other than the extreme ends and mid-point of the emotional scale that we were probably taught as children, most people struggle to understand, communicate, and deal with the emotions in-between.
Doing this is made harder if we experienced childhood emotional neglect – where we did not experience or learn how to express, process and deal with our range of emotions in a healthy way, usually because our parents didn’t learn how to express, process and deal with their emotions either, therefore they didn’t have the skills to pass on to us.
Consequently, the family habit of suppressing, dismissing, and avoiding emotions rather than acknowledging them and learning how to deal with the discomfort of them is passed down through the generations, and can contribute to many things such as depression, anger issues, mental health disorders and a general lack of emotional fulfilment.
Dealing with emotions in a healthy way is known as Emotional Intelligence and is defined as:
The ability to understand, use and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges, and defuse conflict. www.helpguide.org/
Emotional Intelligence enables you to:
- build stronger relationships
- achieve personal goals by having the confidence to take action
- deal with any emotions that you may encounter on the way to achieving that personal goal
- connect you to your feelings so you can make informed decisions using the logic and reason part of your brain AND the emotional part of your brain.
So, if we don’t know how to define what we’re feeling, how to process what we’re feeling, have a habit of avoiding, ignoring, or supressing our emotions, and don’t know how to deal with any emotions that our clutter triggers, is it any wonder that we give up?
Note: Make sure you get the professional help you need to manage the range of emotions you’ll inevitably experience while you’re on your Journey, to ensure that this time your habit of avoiding, ignoring or supressing your emotions doesn’t sabotage your success.
10 SIGNS YOU STRUGGLE WITH YOUR EMOTIONS
- You often experience anxiety or depression.
- You can’t / struggle to accept a compliment. You deflect and dismiss positive praise.
- You actively avoid intimacy (physical, emotional, intellectual, experiential, spiritual).
- You blame and judge others a lot, either openly or silently in your thoughts.
- You are uncomfortable being alone or in silence.
- You find it hard to slow down and relax.
- You change the subject when uncomfortable during a conversation.
- You laugh or smile when you or someone else talks about their emotions or sad things.
- You avoid conflicts or uncomfortable conversations with your partner/family members.
- You can’t stop worrying.
You can clear your clutter fast, or you can clear your clutter forever, but you can’t clear your clutter forever, fast.
If you NEED to clear your clutter and you’re ready to accept that you can’t clear it forever FAST, click on this link and visit my Help Centre to find out how I can help you get started. https://www.clutterclearing.net/clares-help-centre/