Social Gathering Survey Results – Making Decisions Pt 2
Question 1: How do you know you’re struggling to make decisions?
I haven’t been able to maintain my home because of the clutter that I can’t make decisions on.
Question 2: Which practical things make decision making difficult for you?
- I try to eat the elephant instead of breaking it down into manageable bite-size pieces
- No real deadline for having to make a decision – even if I give myself a self-imposed deadline
Question 3: Which mental things make decision making difficult for you?
1st place: Fear
Question 4: In the past, on average how long would you spend in one go trying to make decisions before you gave up?
1st place: 5 – 15 minutes
Question 5: In n the past, on average how long would you spend in one go trying to make decisions before you gave up?
If I wasn’t sure what to do with something I would put it back in another pile of clutter until I came across it again later
Question 5: Which of the top tips are you going to TRY as you start/continue to make decisions about the things in your clutter?
Make sure I use 7 action focused choices when making a decision so I reduce the emotional response and make a more reasoned decision
What are the signs we’re struggling with decision making?
There are many, but here are a few of the most common ones.
- We procrastinate to avoid the stress of making potentially uncomfortable decisions.
- We focus on researching and planning rather than taking a risk and making a decision.
- We leave decisions to other people so we can blame them if it turns out to be the wrong decision.
- We wait for others to push us into making a decision so we can blame them if we decide later that it was the wrong decision.
- We Self-Handicap by intentionally doing something to sabotage the outcome so we can use it as excuse to explain any possible failure on things outside our control.
- We feel stressed about even the thought of having to make a decision.
- We focus on the future not the present. We’re always thinking about the ‘what if’ rather than focusing on the decision in front of us.
- We don’t sleep well because our brain is constantly thinking about the options, choices, pros and cons, worst case scenarios etc.
- We consciously or sub-consciously self sabotage our time by saying we don’t have enough to make a decision.
- The stress of the thought of having to make decisions may affect our physical or mental health.
- Not making decisions about our clutter can cause conflict in our relationships.
- We know we’re not living our life to the full.
- We’d rather spend time looking for the ‘magic wand’ that will make the decisions for us rather than take responsibility ourselves.
- We justify keeping everything in our clutter.
- We’d rather spend money as a result of our clutter than make a decision e.g.
– self storage
– paying insurance, heating, lighting, rent/mortgage on space we can’t use
– allowing our homes to deterioriate and loose value
– trademen charging more because of the clutter
– delaying moving home because of the clutter