Let me ask you a few questions.

First: How long did you have your clutter challenge before you started to ask for or search for help? 

Second: How many friends, family, authorities had TOLD you that you needed help before you accepted it or went looking for it yourself? I suspect well-meaning friends, family, authorities etc offered help long before you accepted it or went looking for it.

Third: When you started looking for help, were you looking for a magic wand or a magic person who would be able to tell you what to keep and what to get rid of, or the ‘perfect’ storage solution so you can organise your clutter without ever having to make a decision and let go of anything? 

Fourth and final question: Did you ‘assume’ that the only help that would make a difference was having someone come to your home and help you have a blitz like they do on the TV programmes? 

When we don’t find the magic wand or the magic person turned out to be a glorified blitz, most of us  decide to go it alone. 

Don’t worry, we’ve all been there, me included. We think it’s going to be quicker and easier to do it on our own, which leaves us physically and mentally exhausted, overwhelmed, and in a constant cycle of giving up and procrastinating. Sound familiar?

Even when people start their 7 Step Journey, they often refuse to ask for extra help, support or accountability either from me, other Journey members or therapists or counsellors. Even if they do, they often dismiss any advice that they are given.

7 Common Reasons why We Struggle To Ask For (and accept) Help

Most people struggle with more than one of the following:

1. You’re a perfectionist (Really? Who knew?!)
2. Fear – of appearing incompetent, stupid, vulnerable, weak,  inferior, or of becoming uncomfortable by trying something unfamilar 
3. You think you will become a burden to others
4. You don’t want to feel you ‘owe’ anyone anything (which is why it’s often easier to pay for help than ask a friend or family member)
5. You think that when they give you the help you need it will be ‘obvious’, you will beat yourself up for not working it out yourself, and you will then believe that ‘proves’ that you are incompetent, stupid, vulnerable, weak,  inferior etc.
6. You (falsely) believe that other people are able to do it without help, so you tell yourself you ‘should’ be able to do it on your own too
7. You don’t know what help will make a difference, and/or you ‘assume’ there’s no help available that will make a difference.

You can clear your clutter FAST, or you can clear your clutter FOREVER, but you can’t clear your clutter FOREVER FAST.

To find out how Clare can help you clear your clutter Forever, without the need for an expensive home visit, click here now: https://www.clutterclearing.net/clares-help-centre/