Common Characteristics of a Clutter Clearer
We have all felt impatient at times, especially when we’re trying to deal with our clutter.Christine started her Private Clutter Clearing Journey in September 2020 and completed it in March 2023. This means she’s cleared all her clutter and created the habits she needs to stay Clutter Free Forever.
We have all hoped at some point in our BCC (before Clutter Clearing) life that someone would discover a magic wand to enable us to deal with our clutter in the blink of an eye. Of course, we don’t have the patience to spend the time discovering that magic wand ourselves – we want someone else to do it.
Impatience is a symptom of stress and is often associated with irritability, anger, anxiety, worry.
This is Merriam-Webster’s definition of ‘impatient’:
- not willing to wait for something or someone:
- wanting or eager to do something without waiting;
- showing that you do not want to wait: showing a lack of patience
Example of Patience
- All people who succeeded in achieving their life goals had to develop patience
- Athletes need to practice day after day to become champions
- Great leaders in every area of life had to wait for their turn to become the leader
- Captains of industries have to work day after day to become the captains
- Actors, writers, inventors and people in every area of life who reach the top in their field, have to be patient – and perhaps more importantly, consistent.
5 Ways Impatience is GOOD
- It can help us speed things up or change course e.g. when we were hunter-gatherers, if we spent 2 days hunting woolly mammoths and got nothing, it was good to grow impatient and consider the possibility of ‘gathering’ instead of ‘hunting’.
- It enables us to learn and realise what’s actually required to reach our goals in terms of time, energy and effort.
- It motivates us to find ways to become more efficient in terms of the time, energy and effort required to achieve our goals.
- It motivates us to review our goals and make sure they’re worth the time, energy and effort that’s actually required to achieve them.
- It motivates us to understand our options better.
7 Times When Impatience is BAD
- When we stubbornly stick with something long after it makes sense to e.g relationships.
- When our original goal is worth sticking to (e.g. become Clutter Free Forever!) but we become impatient and switch goals instead.
- When we stick to our original goal but our constant search for alternatives distracts us from putting in the time, energy and effort required to succeed.
- When we become impatient too often, and our lives are filled with a lot of unnecessary procrastination, anxiety, second-guessing, and bad decisions.
- When it damages trust with other people.
- When it leads us to make irrational decisions.
- When we’re TOO patient and it gets in the way of us living our best life.
10 SIGNS YOU’RE IMPATIENT
- You’re only interested in clearing the physical backlog of clutter, not creating the habits you need to stay clutter free Forever
- You don’t watch every video on your Journey or complete every assesment. You skip those you think aren’t important, necessary, or those you assume are repeats
- You don’t follow the 30:10:2 rule to manage your time, or set a timer for your daily check-ins and any exercises that you’re guided to do – you do as much as you can or what you consider is ‘enough’
- You’re still looking for the ‘magic wand’ that will deal with your clutter quicker than the Journey
- You focus on the number of videos you have in a Clutter Clearing day / week rather than focusing on simply watching, following and ‘Doing the Doing’ of the next video
- You don’t take the minimum 2 rest and recharge days a week or at all. You don’t take at least 1 week of holiday / vacation at the end of each term
- On Step 2 and beyond you get bored quickly with the routine of doing the same Clutter Clearing Sessions on the same day each week, and you struggle to consistently ‘Do the Doing’
- You resist using the Not Sure category and/or setting up a categorising and sorting station.You still make decisions based on ‘keep’ or ‘get rid of’ because you think it will be quicker.You think that you ‘should’ be able to make an instant decision
- Even following the Clutter Clearing Journey, you blitz your Journey videos. You go in waves of doing more than 2 hours a day, doing more than 5 days a week, then do nothing for days or weeks.
- Even though there is lots of evidence about of how long the Journey will realistically take you to complete, and even though this is significantly less time than how long you’ve been trying to deal with your clutter on your own, you still believe the Clutter Clearing Journey will take too long.
If you struggle with impatience, find out how Clare can help you in her free help centre: https://www.clutterclearing.net/clares-help-centre/